This is just a short post. first our new student arrived. very nice and excited about his time at GIA, then our second student arrived from Korea (only with us a few weeks until she finds an apartment) also very nice.
My husband is a great cook and I get by. We had planned to have him make the first few dinners so as not to scare them away. Unfortunately, he has two dental appointments and a family meeting this week. So it's my cooking.
I mangled pasta last night... even I have to admit it was bad, tonight I am making meatloaf.. this I can do..
tomorrow a cooked chicken compliments of Costco..
Many of the Asian countries appreciate the art of the food. Only these students go to fine restaurants and take pictures of the plates and presentations...
Family dinners in the USA can be a bit of a shock. In general, we value the company at the dinner table much more then what is put on the table.. Unless we are going out.. our goal is to put something on the table.. not looking at it as an event.
So for now... we will muddle through the first few meals.. and find a happy compromise between high end cuisine and the normal meals of American life...
Bon Appetit!
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Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Sunday, May 15, 2011
closing the chapter and now will move on
What went wrong with our truly only nightmare of a homestay..?? the ? is what didn't..
I will make a short list and then let the readers know.. what WE did wrong also.
What the student did..
*Wouldn't clean up after himself... this is in every room, Kitchen, bathroon and.... what got him kicked out: his bedroom.
*This included.. leaving eggs on the floor and walking over them to leave in the morning, also.. bought dishes so he didn't have to "worry about cleaning up"...
yes people... I know a very Red Flag...
*would borrow our extra foon items.. then bought about three dollars of veggies and said "do not use unless you want to cook them for me..".
*when needing something from the store.. he would say.. "oh you go get it.and I will pay you later" this never happened..
*would want vegatarian dinners and not show up but would call at the end of dinnertime telling us to save his.... then would want to start a whole new cooking project at 9 at night..but be to tired to clean up.
*At 6 in the morning would be yelling into his skype after we had asked him several times to keep it down.
..The last two things are what made him no longer workable.. and destructive.
*He came down the stairs and shared with me (the wife) how his "privates were chapped and what should I do" later he then came into the kitchen with his sorang half the usual size above his knees.. when I shared with hubby why and what the student has shared.. he was ready to kick him out then... .
But the student nailed his own coffin when.. (again.. after this will not speak of it again..
a special thank-you to the friends that have had to let us vent ALL the details)
*He was quite the next morning, no yelling banging anything... we thought maybe a reprieve..... oh no...
It was laundry day so I went to get his laundry basket.. words can not describe the state of his room...
1/2 a bottle of wild turkey sitting on a table.. some poured on the table.. food everywhere.. and the best part..
vomit on the carpet and vomit soaked clothes there as well.. then vomit on the desk and in the drawers...
He left for school with his room like this... he was done.. we packed his suitcases, found his porn (eewwww) and he had to come pick them up at his morning break...
the conversation that transpired between my hubby and him... will not be here....
he took no responsibility for his actions.. saying he was ill.. yeah... or duh.. anyway..
what we did wrong..
*we kept saying all the red flags were cultural.. they were not.. we have had students from around the world. he was just rude, self entitled and dirty..
we have had other students that have always had maids and never did for themselves.. but this was over the top...
*we SHOULD have.. asked him to leave earlier.. our other student complained even our friends told us to get rid of him...
as my hubby says... when I try to be nice... bad things can happen.. this was the one and only time.
Chapter Closed...
I will start this week... writing again about all the great and funny experiences that we have had...
a new student comes next month.. and we are healed and excited to meet another international friend!
I will make a short list and then let the readers know.. what WE did wrong also.
What the student did..
*Wouldn't clean up after himself... this is in every room, Kitchen, bathroon and.... what got him kicked out: his bedroom.
*This included.. leaving eggs on the floor and walking over them to leave in the morning, also.. bought dishes so he didn't have to "worry about cleaning up"...
yes people... I know a very Red Flag...
*would borrow our extra foon items.. then bought about three dollars of veggies and said "do not use unless you want to cook them for me..".
*when needing something from the store.. he would say.. "oh you go get it.and I will pay you later" this never happened..
*would want vegatarian dinners and not show up but would call at the end of dinnertime telling us to save his.... then would want to start a whole new cooking project at 9 at night..but be to tired to clean up.
*At 6 in the morning would be yelling into his skype after we had asked him several times to keep it down.
..The last two things are what made him no longer workable.. and destructive.
*He came down the stairs and shared with me (the wife) how his "privates were chapped and what should I do" later he then came into the kitchen with his sorang half the usual size above his knees.. when I shared with hubby why and what the student has shared.. he was ready to kick him out then... .
But the student nailed his own coffin when.. (again.. after this will not speak of it again..
a special thank-you to the friends that have had to let us vent ALL the details)
*He was quite the next morning, no yelling banging anything... we thought maybe a reprieve..... oh no...
It was laundry day so I went to get his laundry basket.. words can not describe the state of his room...
1/2 a bottle of wild turkey sitting on a table.. some poured on the table.. food everywhere.. and the best part..
vomit on the carpet and vomit soaked clothes there as well.. then vomit on the desk and in the drawers...
He left for school with his room like this... he was done.. we packed his suitcases, found his porn (eewwww) and he had to come pick them up at his morning break...
the conversation that transpired between my hubby and him... will not be here....
he took no responsibility for his actions.. saying he was ill.. yeah... or duh.. anyway..
what we did wrong..
*we kept saying all the red flags were cultural.. they were not.. we have had students from around the world. he was just rude, self entitled and dirty..
we have had other students that have always had maids and never did for themselves.. but this was over the top...
*we SHOULD have.. asked him to leave earlier.. our other student complained even our friends told us to get rid of him...
as my hubby says... when I try to be nice... bad things can happen.. this was the one and only time.
Chapter Closed...
I will start this week... writing again about all the great and funny experiences that we have had...
a new student comes next month.. and we are healed and excited to meet another international friend!
Sunday, April 3, 2011
why I took a break
I love home stays and the great experiences that we have.. I also look forward to the future and more great adventures and cross cultural friendships...
I had been reluctant to post on our only really horrible experience until now... with this said... had I followed my own rules.. it would never had become the mess that it did..
Since then.. we are back to normal.. enjoying our home stay students and looking forward to more new friendships this summer....
I will post later what happened.. but for now.. here are the three rules that I didn't follow.
1. Trust your instincts.. if something doesn't seem right.. speak up and check it out!
2. Don't assume poor behavior or rudeness is only cultural.. a common theme in all countries is how to be polite.
3. Cut your losses.. once you know it won't work... make the transition fast and short... (my husband and I spend almost a week.. counting down the days until he would leave..) Ultimately, we packed him up and moved him out... a week later then we should have...
We only had him for two weeks.. but every day it was something... I will share more in my next post... later this week...
Again, our reluctance to share was not wanting to detract from the overwhelming wonderful experiences opening up our home or your to others can be.
I had been reluctant to post on our only really horrible experience until now... with this said... had I followed my own rules.. it would never had become the mess that it did..
Since then.. we are back to normal.. enjoying our home stay students and looking forward to more new friendships this summer....
I will post later what happened.. but for now.. here are the three rules that I didn't follow.
1. Trust your instincts.. if something doesn't seem right.. speak up and check it out!
2. Don't assume poor behavior or rudeness is only cultural.. a common theme in all countries is how to be polite.
3. Cut your losses.. once you know it won't work... make the transition fast and short... (my husband and I spend almost a week.. counting down the days until he would leave..) Ultimately, we packed him up and moved him out... a week later then we should have...
We only had him for two weeks.. but every day it was something... I will share more in my next post... later this week...
Again, our reluctance to share was not wanting to detract from the overwhelming wonderful experiences opening up our home or your to others can be.
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